So, perhaps the scene that most separates Boy Meets Girl from other male to female body swaps comes in the second episode, when Danny, now living in the body and life of Veronica, discovers her box of sex toys and decides to experiment with his new body. Cut to him looking pleased and dazed, smiling, satisfied.
Later, he claims to find more pleasure using his “bunny” than he ever found as a bloke (the show is British).
And yet, the very same character, still identifying as a straight man, flees in terror at his boyfriend’s advances, and once he does allow himself to be pleasured by another man he is shocked and ashamed of what he allowed to be done. So, he finds he is okay with having a woman’s sexuality and needs, but not to have them fulfilled by a man. Later, he gets in a relationship with another woman and falls in love with her.
This show explores identity complexity beyond the it’s hard to put a on a bra, it’s hard to walk in high heels scenes we usually get (though we also get those scenes!) Another fascinating development comes after the character has a nervous breakdown. He starts drinking too much, rebels against his woman’s life, and starts telling everyone he is a man named Danny. End result? Mental Institution.
Finally, faced with electro shock therapy he feels will erase his memory and make him think he is and has always been Veronica, he relents and determines to be her. He watches videos of her to learn how to talk and move like her, and he adopts as best he can a feminine persona, smiling, being sweet and accommodating, taking care of his hair, make-up and clothes, and learning to walk and move gracefully in his heels.
He tries, but he finds it hard, very hard, to be feminine, and ultimately comes to believe he can’t live like that, a feeling I suspect many women who watch this will relate to. It is not being female he finds hard, but being feminine. This problem also hits home with his boyfriend who doesn’t listen, pushing a marriage proposal on him and then completely ignored his body language and tone that clearly convey– I am not into this at all! Like many women, Danny feels he is clearly conveying his feelings, only to be ignored.
So, there is some depth and darkness with the show. I was a little disappointed with the ending– I love the tease, but the show just seemed to stop leaving a lot unresolved. And, I would have liked more exploration of Veronica’s life as Danny, but all in all this is one to watch!